Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in Mahtomedi, MN

Is your relationship in crisis or simply stuck?

Maybe you’ve recently discovered a betrayal such as an affair or secret that shattered your trust. Or perhaps it’s been years of disconnection, distance, or conflict that never seems to resolve. You're exhausted from the arguing... or maybe from the silence. You still care about your partner. You just don’t know how to reach them anymore.

You don’t have to figure this out alone.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help you both feel safe, heard, and close again.

What Is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)?

EFT is a highly effective, evidence-based approach to couples therapy based on attachment theory. It helps couples understand their emotional needs, identify destructive patterns, and rebuild secure, loving bonds.

Whether you're navigating betrayal, a lack of intimacy, or emotional withdrawal, EFT offers a roadmap back to connection.

What to Expect in EFT?

We begin with an in-depth assessment of your relationship, history, and goals.

We slow down recurring arguments and create emotional safety.

You learn how to share from the heart and respond with empathy.

You strengthen your bond, your trust, and your confidence that you can feel close again.

While some couples experience profound improvements with short-term therapy (8-20) sessions, couples who have trauma histories or are recovering from betrayal can benefit from longer-term therapy. Either way, EFT couples therapy is deeply impactful.

What Makes EFT So Effective?

Improved Communication: Say what you really mean, and hear each other clearly.

Deeper Emotional Safety & Trust: Build a relationship where both of you feel secure and valued.

Increased Intimacy & Connection: Rekindle affection, closeness, and joy.

Repair After Betrayal or Trauma: Whether from infidelity or childhood wounds, EFT helps couples heal together.

Common Questions

What if my partner is hesitant?

That’s okay. Many partners are unsure at first. I offer a compassionate, pressure-free environment and can help both of you feel comfortable with the process.

If you or your partner has “one foot out the door” and not sure if couples counseling is something you want to commit to, you may benefit from short term couples Discernment Counseling, which helps couples gain clarity on next steps in their relationship.

Can EFT work even after an affair or long-term conflict?

Yes. EFT has been proven to help couples rebuild trust and intimacy even after serious breaches.

If you are reeling from a recent discovery of infidelity or other betrayal, please know that it is normal to feel like your world is upside down and to feel desperate for answers and relief. You’re experiencing betrayal trauma and there is help! Individual trauma therapy to address the shock and trauma of the betrayal may be helpful in conjunction with couples therapy as you work to rebuild your life.

Do you offer spiritual integration?

Yes. If faith is an important part of your life and you want to integrate that into your couples therapy process, I am honored to offer this as a certified spiritual director.